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General Discussion / Prejudice
« on: September 14, 2012, 02:14:09 AM »
You know what really gets me mad, people who discount you as not worth the effort because you carry a few extra pounds.
I try never to judge a person by their looks (to the point that if you ask me what they look like I couldn't tell you but can tell you what they are like and how they made me feel), but it was pointed out to me by a person's sister that her brother wouldn't be interested in me because I was overweight. Hmm, having never met the man, let alone wanting to go out with him, I found it extremely annoying to say the least. Apparently he has a number of medical issues himself, yet never having met me he judges me.
Why do people do that? Pre judge. I have always thought of the person on the inside was of more importance than the outside packaging. Am I of the minority?
I never gave it much thought but I have thought back in my experiences and come up with a number of instances where both men and women would not go out with the opposite/same (gay rights and all) sex because of physical looks. Especially young men - many who I have heard say 'oh she's too fat' yet the poor girl is only a size 12/14 with curves and not a thin stick. I realise we all have an ideal, but in doing that you discount a lot of wonderful people that may be right for you. You don't need to marry them or even date them, just don't discount them.
Apparently this has obviously stuck a nerve and a need to vent. Thanks for listening.
I try never to judge a person by their looks (to the point that if you ask me what they look like I couldn't tell you but can tell you what they are like and how they made me feel), but it was pointed out to me by a person's sister that her brother wouldn't be interested in me because I was overweight. Hmm, having never met the man, let alone wanting to go out with him, I found it extremely annoying to say the least. Apparently he has a number of medical issues himself, yet never having met me he judges me.
Why do people do that? Pre judge. I have always thought of the person on the inside was of more importance than the outside packaging. Am I of the minority?
I never gave it much thought but I have thought back in my experiences and come up with a number of instances where both men and women would not go out with the opposite/same (gay rights and all) sex because of physical looks. Especially young men - many who I have heard say 'oh she's too fat' yet the poor girl is only a size 12/14 with curves and not a thin stick. I realise we all have an ideal, but in doing that you discount a lot of wonderful people that may be right for you. You don't need to marry them or even date them, just don't discount them.
Apparently this has obviously stuck a nerve and a need to vent. Thanks for listening.
