Welcome to the forum catmedaglia -we are here to help with anything. Someone will answer.
You are obviously having a bad day. No matter how many people stand next to you (no matter the age) you are alone on the inside. People never know what is in your head, they only see and perceive you through their 'heads'. hmmm... it is a tough question and I can only pass on what I have 'learnt' (I am so much closer to 60 that you are) so here goes -
. first and foremost - only you can make yourself happy. Sometimes you have to chose it, as it may not come
naturally.
. if you tell yourself something enough times you will come to believe it - great for positives, truly bad for negatives
. upbeat music will lift your spirits and want to make you dance - win/win situation
. crying and writing bad poetry - relieves stress and gives you an outlet
. dirty jokes? - the boy fell in the mud. Clean joke - he had a shower. You got to work to your audience -
even the best comedians get boo-ed.
. smiling helps - always
(even if you may look psychotic - that scares them away so you don't have to deal with them)
. hold your beliefs, but be willing to listen to other's
. others can make you feel bad, but only you can allow it - chose not to allow it
. tell yourself you are a truly wonderful awesome spectacular person - often
. you may never 'find' yourself, but never 'lose' yourself - think on it
. before you think bad things about a person, think about what led that person to do what they did
. try not to hurt other people's feelings - but don't sacrifice yours in the process
. maturity is a complex thing - I've known 50 year olds who are idiots and 13 year olds wise beyond their years -
in the end does it matter? They are who they are.
And one of my favourites - in the great scheme of things does it (whatever the problem) really matter.
Post often cat. We love to hear from newbies
